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NEW POSTED Thursday February 19, 2004:
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Hey Scarlet, I feel like such a freak. I was dating this great woman, and as always, I ask for something that pisses them off,... I happen to love women with hairy pussies, so all I did was ask her to grow it back, that it really lit me up, she made a comment about she not having the time or energy to deal with that issue... It amazes me that 20 years ago, shaving was a new fad just getting started. Back then I don't think people cared... what went wrong?
-Mamboman |
Dear Mamboman, 20 years, woman responded to the shaving issue with "I don't have time for that", or the idea didn't appeal to them... especially women who identified themselves as strong feminists. Your old girlfriends unwillingness to let it all grow back tells me that she either hates the idea of hair down there, or she simply doesn't care enough about you to indulge your sexual desires. I doubt she "doesn't have time" because all it would require is skipping one step in the shower--hence SAVING her time. If you seem to have bad luck with women in asking them for something that makes them upset, I would seriously think about how you ask them for things. Use tact, and a gentle tone when bringing up anything that may not fly, and you'll be surprised how much better your responses will be. Good Luck, -Scarlet |
POSTED Friday February 6, 2004:
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Miss Scarlet, Why is it that whenever I am having sex, it's never enough? I always seem to want more and more. No matter how many times I orgasm.... I still want to keep going. Am I a sexaholic? I mean, I don't cheat to keep getting it, but it just always seems like I want it more than my boyfriend. Lustfully, XOXO |
Dearest,
It sounds to me like you have an extremely high sex drive, as well as possible emotional needs that are not being met through your sexual relationships. Masturbation can easily relive you of the need down under, but you'll have to look deeper for what it is you really need to feel complete. One of the best ways to build emotional support within yourself is to indulge in things that make you truly happy. Depending on what feeds your soul, paint, sing, write, dance, whatever makes you feel fulfilled. When you are happy with you, you won't need any more from a boyfriend that he's unable to give. -Scarlet |
POSTED Friday January 30, 2004:
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Dear Miss Scarlet Lady, I was wondering if it was possible to be addicted to sex toys, and if so, is that a bad thing? It took me forever to get my first orgasm. Probably because I needed something hard and fast to do the trick (and let's face it a guy can only do that for so long) and it would take me longer than that to finally orgasm. What was until toys were brought into the bedroom... since toys of course can last longer, I can get that once tricky orgasm every time! What I was wondering was, does this mean that I will only be able to get off when I toy is present? It seems like without one I wouldn't be able to get there. There is no comparing when it comes to the difference between the toys and the actual sex. Is that bad? Do you have any advice? Thanks so much! "RubySue" |
Dear "RubySue",
Enjoying sex toys is by no means a bad thing. They are a healthy part of any sexual relationship, and bring variety to the solo sport. you might benefit from using sex toys less often, so that your body "remembers" how to orgasm on it's own. You can also try having your partner use a sex toy on you until you are almost there, and having him enter you to finish you off. You can use this technique over and over, each time having him use less and less of the toy before he helps out. Eventually, you should be able to "taper off" so to speak and not end up needing a toy in the bedroom at all. Keep in mind though, as long as you both are having a good time, it doesn't matter how you get there. -Scarlet |
POSTED Friday January 30, 2004:
| Dear Scarlet,
Why is it that a girl would come to me, ask me out, give me her phone number, only to reject, flake, or come up with some excuse that they can't make it out that night or any night when I call to ask her out? I mean, they came to me, I can only assume they did that for some reason, ie... to go out. And because I don't have the balls to to ask a girl out on my own (fear of rejection I guess, go figure) this puts a real damper on my dating situation. I've pondered this predicament for some time, even asked one or two of them why. Their response is that they feel I'm a player. ???? First of all why the hell did you ask me out in the first place? Second, would a "player" call your number the second he got home? No, he would probably wait a day or two because he knows how to "play the game"... or something. I don't play games. In fact I know so little about "the game" I couldn't tell you what the score was, what inning it was, or even who was playing. The only "game" I got is honesty. All these girls would probably know that if they went out with me. Unless.......THEY'RE the ones playing games. Thanks, "Zig Zigler" |
Dear Zig,
It sounds to me like the girls that you have encountered are somewhat aggressive. They are probably looking for more of a challenge that you're giving. If you call right away, you might be dampening the girl's sense of anticipation. The build up of wondering if a guy will call her is half the fun of this said "game". My advice would be to wait before calling. At least until the next opportunity to go out-say the next weekend. Believe it or not, you'd have more luck with girls if YOU did the asking out. Fear of rejection is hard to overcome, but try to remember that if she says no, it's probably because she's taken, not because she isn't into you. And if she's rude about it, you didn't want to date her anyway.
-Scarlet |